A Scene from Married Life

I believe that this poem is about relationships and shows the upset and hurt that couples go through when they have arguments.  I feel that this can be seen in "thinking of the squabble with my wife". Therefore, I believe the key themes in this poem are relationships, love and romance.
One of the things that I found interesting about this poem was the last line; "and then...". This could suggest that the future is unknown to the couple on whether they'll be able to stay together through future arguments. However, it could also suggest that after "the armistice, each kiss, and then" that they could be back to arguing again. This could show a repetitive cycle that the couple have adopted after being together for a long time.
I believe that through this point that 'A Scene from Married Life' links in with Larkin's poem 'Talking in Bed' as both poems show a couple that have been together for a long time. Both poems always suggest that you don't have to be talking at a certain time to still love each other.
I also found the rhyme scheme in this poem quite significant as it is not regular however there is still some rhyme used in certain places. I believe that this irregular, unclear rhyme scheme could suggest the uneasiness and unsettled relationship that the couple are left in after an argument or disagreement.
Dannie Abse has also chosen to use some war references when describing their arguments which could suggest the conflict is as important to them as a war is to it's respective nations. An example of this is "Our own cold wars during the real Cold War were few and brief". However, Abse also portrays a sense of forgiveness and peace that the couple want after an argument by using the word "surrendering".
I also found the quote "resentful wedlock" quite interesting as it suggests that Abse may feel that in the heat of the moment that they shouldn't have got married as this would never have happened. However, with the previous quote "far dank confusion" could suggest that Abse is only resentful of marriage in circumstances like this.